There are certain situations in life when you really don’t want to miss. Certain things that seemed big may not seem bigger now and some issues which were unsolvable looked unsolvable because you did not use your mind to solve it. Instead, you used your head. After ending a relationship with your partner, there comes a question in mind always ‘Did I rush into this? Should we have given this another chance?”. Getting back after a break up can happen by making pros and cons list, going back and forth checking for decisions and what not follows. After the break up is done, most of them start to think if the decision is right or wrong. You have so many questions and confusions that your emotional self has not allowed you to give your logical mind a chance to think.
Here’s the trick – It is not always black or white. It is not always right or wrong. There can a whole new shade to this – Gray can be a color too, you know! After the deed is done, it’s sometimes hard to tell whether the breakup was a mistake or not. You have so many conflicting feelings that it’s impossible to decipher the emotional part of your brain from the logical part. You wonder if wanting to get back together with your ex will fade or if the feeling means you were never meant to break up in the first place. Here’s the tricky thing – It’s not always black and white.
There’s a whole lot of room for gray. Let’s all face it. Ending a relationship is not an easy joke. It is not only difficult for you, but is one of life’s hugest decisions. However strong you be, you will end up cribbing to your friend about the lost love. Whatever you decide, it is very important to avoid getting caught in a dramatic roller coaster relationship, where your cycle is breaking up and then getting back together. In the end,
only you know what the right decision is, but just in case you’re unsure, here are the signs to get back to your ex in life.
Reasons Why You Should Get Back To Your Ex
1Time heals
Time heals almost all wounds! Right? Maybe all that you both need is a little bit of time apart to clear your head. Or, it could also be the fact that you both grew up post the breakup. Often, after a while what happens is that, time heals your fights. After a breakup, what generally happens is that the world moves on and you forget what it was you fought about. So, most of the time, it is the time that plays a major part in a relationship. Whatever the case may be, time has made you two realize that you want to be together and so instead of waiting for each other’s ego’s to come down, go and talk to him.
2It is fixable
When you start wondering why was it that you two fought, that’s your easy route to getting back. If you both do not know from where the problem originated, then what is the use of fighting. Maybe, you both didn’t want to do the same things back and then realized it is too silly to fight for it now. Maybe you ended things because your partner was a workaholic and now he or she realized there’s more to life than just work. Once you realize the problem is gone, getting back together seems like the easiest solution, right?
3You both want the same things now
Sometimes what happens is, when you are dating, you realize both of you do not want the same things. The relationship ends on a note that says ‘NOT ON SAME CARDS’. Yes, both of you are different and want something else from each other. However, people change, and so do our wants and needs. You could change your mind and later decide you want to have children, and you want to have children with your ex. If you both want the same things now, it sounds like the timing is on your side.
4The grass is not always greener on the other side
After your breakup, you start dating other people and suddenly you realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. May be you were interested in the previous grass that was green and looked so much better. You now see that the grass you were on, once before was ever so green. If you both have this realization, why not go back to the grass you once knew and try to re-water it?
5You are both grown ups
Time has passed, and you both are more mature and much wiser. If that’s the case, things could be quite different for you too. Your relationship with each other most likely will have a much different, more mature vibe. You are probably thinking of a settle down or something on the lines of growing old together. That is when you should surely go ahead and pick up the phone to call your ex.
6The Second chances are always good
Who is saying that giving someone a second chancewould be a trouble? There are no rules that say that second chances are off limits. No one creates the rules. If you happen to want to feel like giving your partner a second chance, go ahead. If you two are dedicated to working on your relationship and willing to give it another chance, then go for it.
7You are miserable without each other
If you find out that you are extremely miserable without each other, get back. After a breakup, the urge to call the partner increases. It is also very famous for people to get drunk and call their exes. Even after millions of ignoring sessions, drinking sessions, brooding situations, you think it is just impossible to handle the pain anymore, dial his number. If your partner feels it the same, then there is no need of a call or a formal talk at all, because by then you are already wondering where to go on a date!
Whatever said and done, unless and until you feel the urge, you would dare not to do anything. That is how it works in a relationship also. You got to think more than twice before you decide anything and it holds great for getting back as well. If you think, it’s worth all the emotional pain, get back. If somewhere you know it is purely to make yourself feel better, then do not! Just don’t! Because you will end up causing more bad than good.
-Pavithra Ravi
