Just broke up or broke up long back? Doesn’t matter, being in a relationship you have understood how good friends, you were with your ex, right? Now, you miss him most as a friend, but are confused on whether you must contact him or not? Or you must answer his call and messages or not? Then, here are some tips on How to keep a good relationship with your ex after breakup, and get a good friend.
How To Stay In A Good Relationship With Your Ex After Breakup
1Do you really want a platonic relationship
If you want to have a friend relationship with your ex after breakup in some hopes that you might get back together, then you are not ready to be friends at all. Take some serious decision to consider whether or not you are really ready at all to be platonic.
If you are unsure of the feelings, try to consider this question: How will you feel if you have come to know that your ex is with someone else? If just by imagining your ex with someone else, can make your face turn red with rage and jealousy, then you are not ready to be friends.
Try to focus more on your hobbies, close friends, as well as school/work. Though it can be difficult, you can eventually learn to live happily without being in constant contact with him.
3Let your ex know about the friendship
You can also send a friendly email or a phone call.
If he is not ready to be friends, he can be grieving the loss of the relationship. Do not get upset if this is your case. Try to give your ex some time he needs to cope with any type of residual feelings from the breakup.
5Spend Time Apart and try to Adjust with New Life
It takes serious commitment to make a relationship work. Breaking up, after any of that kind of an emotional investment can hurt. Before you do anything else, first try to adjust to your new life away from him. You may take the time to do those things that you might always wanted to do, but for whatever be the reason felt like your previous relationship prevented.
You can also find, after some time, that you can be friends again allowing both of you to happily go your separate ways as well as be together as a friend. But if you decide that you want to stay friendly, you will better be off with a little space. When you reconnect, it can be a little easier to see yourselves as individuals and not feel responsible for one another, or too affected by one another’s actions.